I had a special request this past week they wanted to know what is the line between interested and thirsty. When should we give him/her a glass of water? Well let’s dig into the issue a little more. From experience I have seen many women shut down a man and call him thirsty when the guy just showed interest. I have also been that guy that will say “hello beautiful” or “I saw you and I just had to talk to you?” no pick up lines just straight honesty. I have also have an experience where I just wanted to tell a female that she was nice looking and I received the boo boo face. Now, after receiving the boo boo face I was salty but I just let it go. I knew she wouldn't get a good man with that kind of attitude and I kept it moving. I just think this thin line between interests and thirsty is not that thin. It is relatively thick. If a guy comes up to you attractive or not and tells you that you are gorgeous and he wants to know your name unless you have a man you could be very courteous and say “thank you” and give your name. If you are not interested tell him politely and keep it moving. Now MEN please pleaseeeeeee pleaseeeeee do not be ignorant and hit the “Well you weren’t that cute anyway” at that point you sound desperate. Women if you have a man you can still say “thank you, however I’m taken but I appreciate the gesture.” For the men out there that think that every woman wants them it’s not true!!!! Lol. When a woman says hello that’s not code for “I’m DTF” (down to F**K). Sometimes hello means hello and when she says you look nice that does not mean “OOOO I WANT YOU NOW”. Men just know that you should carry yourself appropriately when approaching and being approached by a woman. Also, women stop acting like a guy can’t say hello. He’s not thirsty, sometimes he is just interested.
Let’s take a moment on being thirsty. Thirsty is similar to the word pressed. If all you do all day is approach every woman
you see you just may be thirsty. If as a woman all
you do is post pictures on IG with your cheeks out or in lingerie you thirsty
and no GOOD MAN wants you or that. ß Just because he will
FU*% you does not mean that he wants you as a person. Thirsty is going for all married men. Thirsty is calling a female and texting her
in the same minute. If she doesn’t answer your call, why text her right after? You all are not
DATING! Women if you have a child(ren) and you chasing a man and trying to find out what the next man is doing
and, you are forgetting your child(ren) at daycare then you are thirsty and need to
check your priorities. Now Creeps are just
that Creeps. We all know what makes a guy a creep and what makes a woman a creep. It is not Halloween and no one wants to be
with a creep besides maybe another creep.
#ButYouDontHearMeTho
HAHAHAHAAHAHAAHHA, good post!
ReplyDeleteNow I honestly have a LOVE/HATE with the term thirsty. One, Social Media and its rise has taken the human interaction out of meeting someone. We create our pseudo self online and are posing as if everything that is posted online is the absolute truth about you ( or in the context of the post, the woman). Without the human interaction, I feel less equipped to gain the interest of the particular young lady because I'm now perceived as being thirsty. I get the idea of being thirsty and setting thirst traps (I'm guilty of taking a post workout pic so the ladies will like my pic) but its what er have to work with. I'm out here like Drake " trying to connect" but the methods or actions I have to use to get the attention are now limited.
ReplyDeleteIn relationships, there is this lost art that our folks did and it was called "courting." I find it hard to court in the age of social media because often times she's heard regurgitated lines and then my genuine compliment gets grouped with the other "desert dudes." Its a tough call.
John, good feedback on your part. I like your approach!
DeleteGreat Topic!
ReplyDeleteAs a young woman, who has been approached on numerous occasions, I can say that I respect when a man comes over to say nothing but "Hello Beautiful". However, I cannot respect when a man refers to me as "sexy", "ma", or "dammnnnn". I believe that women receive all kinds of different approaches in their lifetime and sometimes the approaches can be difficult to decipher. I believe what proceeds out of a man's mouth after his initial greeting is what can either ruin my night or lead me to want to know more about him. I can think that a "Hey Beautiful" comment is a simple and honest greeting that a man may choose to give me; however, oftentimes that's followed up with a reference to sex or my physique. At that point is when I place the young man in the "thirsty" category. There is no problem in showing interest in a female, or vice versa, but I feel as though the approach and subsequent conversation is what separates the "thirst-buckets" from the "interested" few. Approach me with a "hello" or a compliment, then engage in some small meaningful conversation, ask me if I have a man, and then,depending on the answer, ask me for my number. I can't tell you how many times I have told an "interested" guy that I have a man and they respond "well you can have friends though". That just shows a complete disregard for "my man" and shows exactly what type of "relationship" you are looking for.
So, with all that said, I believe that as long as you stay respectful and give small meaningful conversation, you are welcomed into the "interested" category. Thirst-buckets are the men who give insulting approaches "Hey Sexy" and ask you for your number two seconds after they meet you, and then they insult you if you reject them.
P.S. I am a strong believer in "courting", and I wish our generation would bring that back!
LoveLee**