We talk about women and Pride all the time. So can women swallow their pride when it comes to dating? After reading an interesting article about women and pride, I wanted to share my thoughts so I could hear your thoughts on it. The article talks about women having good dating pride and bad dating pride. However, we know that a woman’s pride is what helps create the quality of a woman. You always hear “I’m CLASSYYYYY” well are you really? Are you sophisticated? Are you confident or are you just plain out cocky WITHOUT a reason?
Pride is “a feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements.” This definition only begins to describe the downfall of the woman’s ego in my opinion of course. Taking a look at what guys may consider good pride is when a woman takes pride in what she wears, in her goals, and her man (when she has one). A man loves a woman with pride because it represents a type of confidence that he knows she will pass to him and his future children. Now this pride can lead to disaster if not controlled.
“I’m a BAD B*&#H” ß we have all seen and heard this before and it’s probably one of the dumbest sayings that men do not I repeat DO NOT RESPECT. Women just because you are very attractive does not mean that you are a soon to be wife. A man will take the 7 in the face but 10 in the attitude over the 10 in the face and 5 in the attitude any day as a wife. Now Bad Pride can easily get you left behind and being that lonely woman at 50 with 12 cats (no offense to my cat lovers). Examples of bad pride:
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- You like a man but will not tell him.
- You want to go on a date with a man but will not ask him on a date
- A man approaches you and tells you his interest but you playing hard to get
- A man makes less money as you but works his A$$ off and all you can say is “Girl he don’t make enough."
- You a Bad B*$(H so if he doesn't have True Religion jeans he’s not worthy however you live with your mom with no car and working at McDonald's
As this article comes to an END all I have to say is PLEASE don’t let PRIDE take away your HAPPINESS.
This is all true. Very true. It's just sad that men will go for the "Bad bitch" before the "great woman".
ReplyDeleteDo you feel the Bad B*(# can be the great woman tho?
DeleteSome women think being called a bad b#%# is cute but will demand respect. Those women will also complain if their man cheats on them. Your mind has to be perverted in thinking that title is a call for respect. And honestly, I believe any woman or man working at McDonald's deserves just as much respect as a woman or man working for the FBI. That was a side note. But please please, I Hate hearing "Imma bad b#$#" ....it's over rated and means absolutely Nothing except "I have no respect for myself and you shouldn't respect me neither"!
ReplyDeleteI agree. The Baddest B*#&'s be the first one's that are single. A man most of the time doesn't want the baddest for her mind its for the the trophy...
DeleteVery true about the good pride, bad pride comparison but I will be empathetic the "Bad B!@@$!" after all we created her. As men we have to be understand that the replication of "attractive behavior" is of the woman described in Psalms 31. Its more loud and abrasive women that are blasted into society and therefore to some aspect we must understand that the "BB" is only attempting to keep up with the trend of society in hope that she will be a catch.
ReplyDeleteWe, as men, need to equally celebrate the qualities of the good pride woman so that we can see more of her and less of the BB.
Very Well said!
DeleteI highly agree with your comment. Applauding it all the way around.
DeleteThat's very true but in reality a lot of men prefer the "bad b#tches" over a good women. In my experience and simple observation when a woman possesses the above qualities you noted( that men want)...men are often intimidated. It's rare that you see men truly pursing a women with higher standards. Also, in regards to the asking a man on date, etc...a lot of women are still very old fashion and were taught that if a man really wants you he will pursue you.... P.S. I HATE THE TERM "BAD B#TCH" :)
ReplyDeleteI totally agree. The old fashion woman is good in my book. However, a man has to know of some sort that an interest is there. How does he know if she's feeling him if she doesn't do anything to show it?
DeleteI understand what you mean because a woman can give off some hints that she is into a man without taking total control of the situation. I don't know... some women are stuck on "the chase" and end up losing a good man who refuses to pay cat and mouse for months...
DeleteIndeed. I love your views.
DeleteThank you kindly! lol
DeleteI think this article mentioned several valid points when it comes to women's pride.. However let's not confuse what some women view as ” standards” and call it pride, or prideful behavior. Overall I agree w this article.. Its refreshing to hear a guys take on the subject
ReplyDeleteDepends on the woman of course. & most of what you have talked about describes a typical high maintenance female. It's ok to have standards but it can push into being "too picky" where as she will be left alone in a house with "10 cats" lmao some women need to learn the definition of compromise when dating. I'm not saying to date a drug dealer bc he has his own car and house and wearing a Michael Kors watch. Could a woman live with having a man who's making 6 figures, Own car, own house but has 1-2 kids..? By all means Keep your standards but don't set them too high to where it's impossible for you to meet or enjoy a date with a man and get to know him!
ReplyDeleteGreat article! Sheds light on how women sometimes put ourselves down with terminology such as a bad bi*ch. I believe if men had higher standards women would have no choice but to rise to the occasion or be left behind to those men with no standards. This is all generalisations and not speaking of ALL men or ALL women of course. Just my thoughts... Again, great article. This blog is becoming my daily read :)
ReplyDeleteThis article makes me question how much I have messed out on because of pride. Pride is only good when used correctly; however, some times not having pride can be looked at as settling or coming on too strong. When regarding to the term "bad b $#@!" It is not used by women but by girls who seek attention to build their own self-esteem. A women doesn't label herself as anything but a women.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you that pride can be both a good thing and a bad thing. I think that a woman having pride in herself is a sign of confidence but often times that "confidence" gets misunderstood as "conceitedness" , which in turn may be "turn off" to some guys. I feel like pride in oneself as a woman these days is a necessity. With all of the degrading songs, comments, and "ey ma"s, having pride in ones self is our only defense at times. I think that finding a balance because pride and confidence is something that every woman should posses.
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree. I just hope that women can also not let pride stop them from approaching the man of there dreams or a man that they want.
DeleteI thought this was great. There is a fine line btw pride and confidence, and it's hard to not come off as prideful when you are proud of your accomplishments and want a mate that is equally as successful. I think it comes down to you humbling yourself, having realistic expectations, and determining what is important to you in the long run. When that man or woman is broke, gained 15 pounds and riding the bus will you still loving sitting on the couch watching scandal? Lol in the words of the homie Jay Z "If I couldn't get you finer things like all of them diamond rings Bs kill for would you still roll?" Lol
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