Are you going to be a "REAL NIGGA" or a "MAN"???? The Choice is YOURS

The world we live in has become a "REAL NIGGA" society.  Most African American males tend to want to live up to this status of being a "REAL NIGGA."  The Urban Dictionary has defined real nigga to mean someone who always are 'themselves',not someone who goes on killing sprees and doesn't care about anything. But, being a real nigga. Being yourself means showing everything about yourself but your weaknesses, knowing them at the same time.  It's all about being real and true to yourself. The opposite of real is fake.   Lets take a closer look at this definition. We all know that majority of teens do not know who they are at 13 - 17, so how does one stay true to when you hardly know who you are?  Well I have an idea, If you do not have it in you to sell drugs don't do it because you feel its the only way of making money.  (NO MAN or WOMAN should feel that drugs are the only way out).  Being real is to live in reality and to know that the world needs African American males to be MEN not  Niggas.  

This article is not meant to put people at ease and not step on toes because that is exactly what I want to do. However, it is to let our young aspiring men know that they can do what ever it is they want to do.  They can be whoever they want to be as long as that title is being you and making your society a better place to live in for your future kids and fellow peers.  We can sit here and talk about black on black crime and how more prisons are being built but FIRST we must address that our households are broken.  We have women trying to raise men and men trying to raise there D*&^'s more than them trying to raise there child(ren).    National Fatherhood Initiative stated:

"Children in father-absent homes are almost four times more likely to be poor. In 2011, 12 percent of children in married-couple families were living in poverty, compared to 44 percent of children in mother-only families "

Education of our kids do not start in the school but it starts at home.  I am not saying that all men should stay with the woman they had a kid with because everyone that has children together is not always meant to be together.  I am saying that as parents of a child you all should be able to come to a co-parent agreement with the mother or father of the child and do what is necessary for success of the child.  How is it as a culture when we had less we did more and now that we have more we do less? Do you have goals for your kids? Do you care how the teacher is treating them while they are in class? Do you care about the way they see themselves in the mirror? if you answered NO to any of those questions then you should re-evaluate your title as a parent because if you don't care hardly anybody else will or can.   

As men we have been absent for WAY to long please lets take back our community and uplift our Young African American Brothers.  I commend the brothers that are fighting for the there son and daughters to have the best that they can give.  I DO NOT commend the women that take out there frustration with the man out on there kids.  If you have a brother that is doing what he has to do as a parent let him do what he has to do but don't use the LAW to work in your favor on hurting his relationship with his child because he may have hurt your relationship with him.  I need women we to help and encouragement to let our young brothers know that they can be a man not to put them down and look at them all like hopeless black men.  It starts with us as a community to get rid of the negative connotations with our Race and Culture.

I leave you with these quotes:

  "Be the CHANGE you wish to see in the world." - Mahatma Gandhi

"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy" - Martin Luther King Jr.